Good day, im a 21 year old lady I need an advise regarding the feud going on between me and my family. I'm a varsity student this year I took a gap because I found out my uncle used up all the money that was left by my father for me to study so my family decided to be secretive about this issue until now, I only found out about this earlier this year my parents passed away by the way, I used to live with my grandmother. Now the issue is I met this guy last year, his doing his last year at varsity. We dated for about a year now, the thing with my family fighting my relationship with him started when the relationship was still new they would literally call him so many years and apparently there's a history between my family with my bf's family nonetheless his family at first didn't like me but they ended up accepting me as their sons girlfriend. My family went to an extent of taking me away from him, they decided that I should live with my aunt far from him. At first they said to me since I'm going through a gap year i should change the environment of which I did not understand I enjoyed staying with my grandmother most importantly she's sick so I wanted to be there for her as she is now living with my younger cousins they are 12 years old so she has no one who atleast will do the house chores and everything. My family decides to take me away from my boyfriend because of some issues they have with his family whenever they bring up his name they include his family, my uncle went to an extent of confronting him but my bf didn't want to worry me he said he didn't say much, now the worst part is that I'm pregnant. And I've told them, I now live with my two aunts very far away from home.I apologized for falling pregnant and am guess what none of them decided to hear me out each and every day I'm insulted and what angers me more they include my deceased mother too they talk bad about her and I feel like they are unappreciating the fact that my own mother had to go work at an early age for her siblings since she was the first born, as little as she earned she ensured her siblings are well taken of,and went to school but now I have no parents im mistreated my whole life I've never done anything that would disrespect my family. I did a terrible mistake by falling pregnant but they never want to hear me out and they saying I will suffer with the baby and I'm not gonna go back to school next year. I need serious help I've reached out to other family members and there is one of my extended family member who's willing to help me she insists that I leave them and go stay with her. Meaning I will have to write a note and leave. I'm scared they will say the obvious that I left because im after my boyfriend if only they knew that my relationship is going through a rough patch in no time we might break up their goal of drafting us apart is finally becoming a reality.
Did u try to sit them down and try to get answers of why ur family n ur bf's family what are they fighting for? The other biggest mistake u made was to fall pregnant u should have waited until ur family approves ur relationship,so jst because u all not be going back to school u them decided to fall pregnant to move the time till u get money to go back to school? Wrong move, having a child with that guy means nothing, if ur family doesn't like him and he decides to marry u someday ur family won't give u their blessings and u knw a mirrage without blessings is like a candle in the wind, make one simple mistake fr that guy otlogobotsa gore nna nkagokgona byang opalletse batswadi bagago, if u want to leave jst tell them, if u weren't pregnant maybe u were gonna get a job and save some money to further ur studies, a child is a gift frm god, u got a lot of work to do running away will make things worse, u tried hard to tell them that u love the guy so try harder and seek advice to other elders, wish u luck.thanx
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